Feel safe being yourself.
Online LGBTQ+ Anxiety & Boundary Therapy in Florida.
Do you constantly worry someone will be upset with you — even when you’ve done nothing wrong?
You’ve gotten really good at reading the room.
At anticipating reactions.
At adjusting yourself before anyone else has to ask.
It makes sense that you’re exhausted. You’ve been trying to hold everything together for a long time.
You overthink conversations. Replay text messages. Lie awake wondering if you said the wrong thing. Staying agreeable started to feel safer than being honest.
But constantly managing everyone else’s comfort comes at a cost — your own.
YOU’RE HERE BECAUSE
From the outside, it might look like you’re keeping it together — but inside, you’re constantly scanning. Anticipating. Bracing for someone to be disappointed.
Anxiety has a way of convincing you that peace depends on staying agreeable.
But living this way is exhausting.
Therapy can be the place you finally stop performing and start building something steadier — boundaries that don’t cost you connection, and confidence that doesn’t collapse under pressure.
You’re tired of feeling responsible for everyone else’s comfort.
Schedule Your Call • 15 minutes • Free • No obligation
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You’ve been bracing for other people’s reactions for a long time.
No wonder your body feels tense. No wonder your thoughts won’t slow down. No wonder rest feels unfamiliar.
Here, you don’t have to perform.
Together, we’ll slow things down enough to understand what’s actually driving the anxiety — not just manage it, but untangle it.
We’ll work with both your mind and your nervous system so that setting boundaries doesn’t feel catastrophic — and disappointing someone doesn’t feel like losing everything.
This isn’t about becoming confrontational.
It’s about becoming steady.
Steady enough to tolerate discomfort.
Steady enough to trust yourself.
Steady enough to stay connected without abandoning who you are.
Hi, I’m Ashley.
You don’t have to keep earning your place in your relationships.
You don’t need someone to tell you to “just set better boundaries.”
You need a space where your anxiety makes sense — where we can understand why disappointing someone feels so high-stakes in the first place.
I work with anxious LGBTQ+ adults who are exhausted from managing everyone else’s reactions.
Together, we’ll explore the deeper patterns that taught you staying agreeable was safer than being honest — and help your nervous system learn something new: disagreement doesn’t equal danger.
This isn’t about becoming confrontational.
It’s about becoming steady.
I I work with LGBTQ+ adults who are exhausted from managing everyone else’s comfort.
If anxiety has you constantly scanning for conflict, replaying conversations, or shrinking yourself to keep the peace, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to untangle it by yourself.
Through affirming, mind–body therapy, we’ll work with the patterns underneath the anxiety so you can build steadier relationships without abandoning yourself.
My specialties
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If you constantly worry about disappointing people, replay conversations in your head, or feel responsible for keeping the peace, you’re not alone. For many LGBTQ+ adults, anxiety is deeply relational — shaped by past rejection, pressure to shrink, or the need to stay agreeable to stay safe.
In our work together, we’ll untangle those patterns and help your nervous system learn that disagreement doesn’t equal danger. You can build boundaries without losing connection — and relationships that don’t require you to disappear.
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When you’ve experienced rejection, instability, or emotional overwhelm, your body learns to brace. You might feel constantly on edge, easily triggered, or exhausted from staying in survival mode.
Using approaches like Brainspotting and somatic work, we gently process what’s been stored in your nervous system — not just talk about it. Healing doesn’t have to mean reliving everything. It can mean helping your body feel steady again.
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Anxiety doesn’t live only in your thoughts — it lives in your body. That’s why our work won’t rely on insight alone.
I integrate evidence-based therapies like CBT and DBT with parts work, somatic techniques, and reflective practices to support both mind and body. This holistic approach creates deeper change — not just coping skills, but lasting steadiness.
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Maybe you’ve become the reliable one. The easy one. The one who adjusts. Over time, that can lead to resentment, burnout, and a quiet sense of losing yourself.
Together, we’ll explore the roots of people-pleasing and help you build the confidence to show up honestly — even when it feels uncomfortable.
The Process
Starting Where You Are. We’ll begin with an open, pressure-free conversation about what’s been weighing on you. No scripts. No expectations. Just space to slow down, breathe, and share what feels most important right now - what brought you to therapy, and what you’re hoping to rise out of.
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Finding what works for you. Together we’ll explore approaches like CBT, Brainspotting, IFS, and holistic mind-body practices.
My goal is to meet you exactly where you are and help you discover what feels supportive, empowering, and sustainable - tools that help you reconnect with yourself, not work against yourself.
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Creating Space to Breathe
As we work together, you’ll begin to feel lighter, clearer, and more grounded.
Not because you’re forcing change - but because you’re finally giving yourself room to rest, reset, and rise into a more centered, confident version of yourself.
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Therapy that meets you where you are.
Frequently Asked Questions
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“Excelsior” means ever upward. It’s a reminder that no matter how heavy life feels, healing, growth, and progress are always possible. At Excelsior Mental Health, my mission is to help you rise above what feels too heavy and move toward greater peace and clarity.
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Yes! I provide online therapy across Florida — including Orlando, Miami, Tampa, Jacksonville, and beyond — so you can access holistic, LGBTQIA+ affirming support from the comfort of your home.
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I use an integrative approach that blends Brainspotting, CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), IFS (Parts Work), and holistic tools like mindfulness and grounding rituals. Each session is tailored to meet your unique needs and goals.
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I work with adults navigating anxiety, trauma, stress, and identity struggles. I especially support LGBTQIA+ individuals and allies who are seeking an affirming, safe space to heal, reconnect, and grow.